The Road Less Traveled…

There’s a term I learned very early on in life, thanks to my mother. She taught me what “the courage of my convictions” meant, and I credit that lesson for sparking so much curiosity and bravery throughout my life.

As a woman who has defiantly challenged and rejected the status quo, I can’t even begin to tell you how much that lesson my mother taught me has come into play lately. I’ve done things that don’t “fit” in the traditional sense. I’ve pursued things that may seem frivolous or silly to others. I’ve pushed all the crap away to make myself the priority. I’ve worked hard to design a life that is anything but ordinary, and I’m still working on making it even more extraordinary.

If someone had asked me at 8-years-old where I thought I’d be at 33, my answer would have been instantaneous and fervent: living with a husband, three kids, five horses, and a pink Barbie car. But here I am, navigating a life that is so far away from what I had imagined for myself. And to be honest with you, I could not be happier. I am married, but my husband and I aren’t planning for children or applying for mortgages. We’re doing other things; things that are authentic to us. This isn’t to say those things are better or worse, it’s just what makes sense for our lives.

I also happen to notice that this really seems to confuse many people. I’m constantly questioned about when I’m having kids, why I’ve chosen not to have kids yet, when I’m planning to buy a house, and so on. The fact that I’ve carved out my own unique path seems to inspire some, and mystify others.

And I can’t help but wonder, why is this such a big deal? Why is it so strange to go against the grain? We have so many opportunities in this world, and I plan to eat up every single one that I can get my hands on. And I encourage you to do the same. Screw the biological clock. If you aren’t ready for children, don’t let the world convince you that you need them. If you haven’t found the man who loves you unconditionally and makes your stomach flip flop, don’t marry him. And if you have a serious case of wanderlust, travel the fucking world. A mortgage is a headache anyway. Don’t let the world determine who or where you should be.

No matter what road you travel, make sure it’s the one that lights you on fire. Don’t waste your heart or your talents. Living an authentic life isn’t selfish. It’s life-saving.

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  • The Bloginista
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    Agree with this x a million. I moved in with my boyfriend a year ago which went completely against everything I was brought up to do. But you know what – it turned out to be the best decision I ever made. It has made our relationship so much stronger & we are happier as a result. We want to get married, but we don't want kids anytime soon. Some people respond to that and say "oh, you'll change your mind" – but we just kind of laugh it off. We both want to travel and have tons of experiences before we're tied down to anything (or anyone!) PS. I think my new life motto is "And if you have a serious case of wanderlust, travel the fucking world." Genius. Sometimes it amazes me to think maybe it CAN be that simple, ya know?

    xoxo

  • The Champagne Diet
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    Yes it absolutely CAN! The moment we realize we have full control of our lives and a serious responsibility to be as authentic as possible, a whole world opens up for us! SO happy you are living passionately! xo

  • Lauren Lou Bate
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    Amen! We're all unique, and therefore should have unique paths/ careers/ journeys to carve for ourselves, not the husband, 2.5 kids, mortgage, dog by the time we're 30.
    As long as we are happy, no?
    I'm so looking forward to meeting you next month in Paris! xx

  • The Champagne Diet
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    Thank you so much! Can't wait to meet you too!! xo

  • Lucy Chiakle
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    I wholeheartedly agree with this whole sentiment and I just LOVE "And if you have a serious case of wanderlust, travel the fucking world" – Damn fucking right!!

    I do a lot of taking people 'with a pinch of salt' in my life. From my middle sister who asks "So when are you having a baby"? to my mediterranean in laws "Why aren't you pregnant yet"? (apparently, I should have been after a year of marriage 😉 ) to "Why haven't you learnt Greek yet" and so on.

    We don't have to justify ourselves to anyone except ourselves. And that's final! So well done for being strong minded and creating the life you want. After all, it is YOURS!

    x x x

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