The Art of Inclusion: How to Build a Killer Tribe and Make Your Business Go Boom

There are a myriad of reasons why some businesses succeed and others don’t. There are tons of things other business owners have that you (and me) may not: more talent, more money, more connections, more charisma, more customers, more education, the list goes on. But here is one no-excuse, surefire way to set your business apart from the others: you need to give a shit about your customers. Like really give a shit.

It pains me when I see talented female entrepreneurs out there starring in what I like to call, “The Me Me Show.” You know what I’m talking about – the excessive selfies, the nonstop chatter about their next vacation, the monetary stats on how much they made on their last launch. And you know what? Under certain circumstances, all of that is fine. If you’re sharing that information in an inclusive way, that tells me a story about who you are, how you got here, and more importantly, why it matters to me, then I am game. But if you’re making it all about you, then honey, you’re a bore.

And more importantly – you’re turning people off, in a big way. Here’s the thing about business. It’s not about you. Or me. People create businesses to solve problems. To help their clients get from Point A to Point B. Whether that’s helping save them from a toxic relationship, assisting them in designing their dream kitchen, or motivating them to lose 50 pounds, businesses exist to serve. And while many entrepreneuresses are the face of their business, there’s a thin veil between injecting some personality into your work, and completely overriding your services by being self-serving.

Now don’t get me wrong – story telling is a huge part of business. You’ve got to share yourself, and be vulnerable, if you want to create staying power. I am all about weaving your personal story into whatever it is that you are selling, clearly. I make a living off telling my story. But what makes your story special is how it relates to your end user. What makes your story important is how it makes others feel. At the end of the day, are you creating a sense of hope for your customer? Are you empowering them with the tools to live their best life? (or design that dream kitchen?) Or are you making them feel isolated and inferior? Are you making them feel included, or excluded?

If you feel like you may be missing something in your business, or you’re just not creating the “splash” you want, consider this: how can you make it less about you, and more about your people? Even if you’ve got 10 people, how can you make them feel like the most special 10 people in the world? Whether they live within your email list, or come in to your brick and mortar store, or follow you on Instagram, your people are visiting your world for a very specific reason, and if you don’t recognize that reason (and over-deliver on it consistently), you can lose them in a heartbeat.

My people live online. They interact with me on Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, and Twitter. A few months ago I was having cocktails with a group of female entrepreneurs, and I explained how much time per day I spend on those platforms creating content and engaging with my audience. Between the audible gasps and the look of complete and utter shock on their faces, I swear Manhattan froze completely for a second or three. “But how do you get any work done?” “How do you keep up?” They were baffled.

Engaging with my audience and building my tribe is my work. That’s how I create relationships and build trust with my people. I wake up at 6 am and answer Snapchats. I comb through old Instagram posts every week to make sure I didn’t miss a question in the comments. I respond to almost every single email I receive (even if it’s a month later). I create for my people, because without my people, I have no business. I interact with my people, because without my people, I have no business.

Let’s look at social media growth as an example of community building. The million dollar question always seems to be, “how do I get more followers?” The first problem with that question is, why do you want more followers? Is it to boast a large following so that when people see your page, they think you’re famous, which leads to more opportunity? Or because you really and truly want to reach a massive audience with your message or your product? Answer that question honestly. I dare you.

I’ve built my Instagram page up over the past few years, organically, by creating valuable content that people look forward to reading. That page started at 0 followers and now has over 50,000. Is that a huge number? Not particularly. But I’ve never bought a follower or done anything unethical to build that following. It’s been me from the start – all heart and a genuine passion to engage with the people who show up there every day looking to be served. Every single time I post something, I ask myself the following questions: Is this inspiring? Is this empowering? Is this entertaining? I work hard every day to create a blended mix of all three, with a focus on the first two. I understand why my people come to me, and I bust my ass to give them exactly what they are looking for.

Lots of opportunities have come my way since amassing a large online platform. Invitations to exclusive events, free products, even book deal offers. And guess what? None of that matters to me. Frankly, it’s all bullshit. What matters is that I get to reach more women every single day, and create a space for them that makes them feel strong, excited, and hopeful. What matters to me is that I get to create things every single day that others actually want to consume. And that is a gift beyond measure.

So, in the spirit of inclusion, I’m going to give you a cheat sheet to help you build your tribe and ultimately, grow your biz. Grab a pen and answer the following:

  1. What do I do?
  2. Why do I do it?
  3. What is my brand’s mission statement?
  4. How am I currently nurturing my tribe?
  5. How can I be even better at it?
  6. What are 3 things I can do over the next week to make my customers feel more included?
  7. Bonus: Ask your audience what they want! One of the best ways to deliver killer content is to simply check in with your people and communicate. They will tell you, trust me!

Inclusion is the key, you guys. If you’re not welcoming people into your world with open arms, you are making a major mistake. At the end of the day, people want to relate. They want to connect. They want to feel like things are possible for them. And if you are lucky enough to lead a pack who comes to you for that feeling, you better take that job very seriously. And never, ever, take it for granted.

 

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  • Melissa Donaldson
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    Love love love!! I needed to hear some of this today. Grabbing my pen and paper and challenging myself with those great questions!

    • caraalwill
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      You go girl!! xo

  • Melissa Donaldson
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    Do you ever make it out to Arizona to speak?

    • caraalwill
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      Not yet! But you never know!

  • Natalie
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    Cara you are THE BEST <3
    Much love for you and this post.

    • caraalwill
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      xoxo!

  • Erika
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    Thank you!!!! This was very helpful … Short and to the point. Gave me something to think about.

  • Kristi
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    Absolutely love this and agree 100%. It pains me to see female entrepreneurs go down the self-serving path.
    In the first year of owning my business I filled every order myself, it was my least favorite part. To turn my attitude around I would literally pray for or send good vibes to that customer whose order I was filling. Instead of focusing on likes or how many followers, I focus on my customers who are the heartbeat of my company.
    Reading your words helped solidify the path I am on. Thank you ❤️

    • caraalwill
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      That is an awesome tip! Love it!! xo

  • Samantha
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    Building a solid tribe is definitely the way to go! Thank you so much for answering everyone… it definitely means a lot. I read Girl Code last week in two days! You did an amazing job on it, you’re such an inspiring lady! Have a great weekend 🙂

  • Tanya
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    This was helpful as always. Thank you! XO

  • Desiree
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    thank you for this… I’ve just started on a new journey. mixing a little bit of what i post in my group on facebook not just about products but about confidence and accepting yourself… because posts like that also help me want changes in my attitude and how i see myself. i don’t get interaction much but i want this to work for my son and i and helps others along the way.

  • LaTilya Butler
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    I’m an educator sifting through this next phase in my life where all I can think about is writing and creating my brand. I SO needed this read to jump start my day.

  • Elizabeth
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    Absolutely Amazing , Thank you for sharing this and thank you thank you thank you Universe for bringing me your post today , this very second, I adore your work, the light you have brought to the darkness that plagued me and just so fired up to take my career , my passion and purpose to the level it needs to be, I am sooooo doing this. You are simply #badass, a #creativebadass <3

    • caraalwill
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      Thank you, thank you, thank you! xoxoxo

  • Tatiana
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    Love this! Thanks! I’m actually loving answering my peeps on social media. That makes everything so much more fun!!Will you be having another mastermind like at the end of last year? I was super pregnant then 😉 Thanks!

    • caraalwill
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      Totally agree! Not sure on the plans for future masterminds, but as always, stay tuned! xo

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