How to Find Your Passion (Yes, I’m Going There)
You know that feeling you get when you’re on a date, and you take a bite of your food and suddenly realize it was way more than you can chew without looking really fucking crazy? That’s exactly how I felt when I typed in the title of this blog post. Finding your passion is a massive conversation. A giant steak that is way too big for that bite. But I’m going to do my best and address it anyway, because I’ve gotten so many requests to broach this subject. Which makes me realize that there are so many people out there walking around, passion-less. Read that sentence over again if you have to. And then you will understand exactly where I’m going with this post.
I was talking to someone the other day who was so worried about finding her “passion.” She felt so stuck on discovering this big, magical purpose that would change her life and make her feel like she had a reason to be on this Earth. And it was making her confused and frustrated.
And I totally get it! The self-help world is a billion dollar industry. People have written hundreds of thousands of books on how to find your passion. Gurus have dedicated their life’s work to helping others do the same. This world somehow makes you think you’re some kind of epic failure if you haven’t nailed down that one “thing” you were sent here to do.
As someone who has never had an issue with finding my passion, I’ve honestly had trouble helping people who do. You see, I have always just been passionate. I move from interest to interest, gliding along into whatever feels good. I’ve never really stressed about it. So I’ve always found it difficult to give advice on how exactly to do that. But in that moment, I broke it down like this and she said it changed everything for her, so I wanted to share it here for anyone who may be struggling with this.
Don’t focus on finding a passion. Focus on being a passionate person.
Focus on bringing as much joy into your life every day. Do the things you love to do. Eat the foods you enjoy eating. Spend time reading books that set your imagination on fire. Wear only the clothes that you feel absolutely fabulous in. Be around people whose energy makes your soul smile and love them hard. Do all of those things without judgement. Do all of those things without expectation.
If this seems daunting, start small. Choose one way to add more “fire” into your life this week. Can you sign up for a course you’ve been thinking about taking? Maybe call up that girlfriend who you know you always have a wild night out with and just do it the hell up? Book that trip you’ve been thinking about taking. Dye your hair pink. Wear something a little eccentric (that you secretly love) in public and vow to not give a shit what anyone thinks of you.
Do you see what I’m getting at here? Passion isn’t this one “thing” that you find and work on for 8 hours a day. Passion is energy. It’s a style. And a way of life.
Focus on being a passionate person, and everything else will line up. I promise.