I’m about to embark on Week 7 of my weight loss journey and I thought I’d give you ladies a quick official update of my progress so far! If you missed my initial post on why I have decided to drop some weight and reframe my thoughts around weight loss in general, check out this post here. To make a very long (25+ year!) story short, I have had an incredibly unhealthy relationship with my body for most of my life. Basing my self-worth on the number on the scale, sabotaging myself time and time again when it came to being healthy, and continuously finding myself in a desperate place. After getting real with myself, and seeking support from a registered dietician who lost 100 pounds herself and has kept it off for years, I have been able to totally transform the way I view the process of losing weight, which in the past had always been such a deprivation-based, miserable experience.

I’m happy to report that as of this morning, I have lost 13 pounds!  I’ve also lost 5 inches off my waist, and gained a sense of empowerment and confidence around this process that I have never experienced before in my entire life. I have been enjoying wine, dinners out, and a bustling social life, and have had zero guilt about any of it. I’m getting incredible results while still living my life, and improving my mindset. Say what!? You can learn more about this journey by listening to Episode 98 of Style Your Mind.

This is certainly in large part to the way this nutrition program is structured, but I’d be remiss if I did not mention the support group that I co-created with my friend Andrea Crowder. Andrea introduced me to this program, and after seeing the shift not just in my body but my mindset after just a few short days, I knew I would want to share this with everyone. We launched Rebel Body Babes, which is a wellness community for women who prefer approaching weight loss with desire vs. discipline. We meet daily in our private Facebook group, and in just 7 weeks, I have watched that space transform into one of the most nurturing, informative, supportive places I’ve ever been a part of online. Andrea and I have major plans for Rebel Body Babes that go beyond the Facebook group, but for now, we’re indulging in that space and cultivating a sisterhood for all the women we’re leading on this journey.

Here are a few of the comments from some of our Rebel Body Babes who feel the same way:

 

 

I also think its important to share a few non-scale victories that I’ve experienced over the past 7 weeks that are worth sharing. Because we all know it’s about so much more than the number on the scale:

Wearing jeans again. They had become so ill-fitting and uncomfortable lately that I stopped even attempting to wear them. I’m happy to report I’ve not just been able to wear jeans again, but look and feel fantastic in them. I have a hefty American Express statement to prove it (LOL).

Feeling energized and excited about my workouts! You ladies know I love SoulCycle, but I feel as though I’ve unlocked another level to a video game recently: I can suddenly ride better, faster, and with more oomph. I feel energized by my rides rather than exhausted. This is 100% due to the way I’m fueling my body, as well as my attitude toward my health in general. I rarely cancel a class – in fact, I am counting down the hours until my next one!

Loving how I look in photos. This. is. huge. I’m really sure of myself in so many areas of my life, but the body image thing has been a struggle. Lately, I’ve been really loving how I look in photos. My husband snapped a shot of me the other night and I didn’t ask him to re-take it or stand in some weird angle to make me look skinny. He took the photo one time. Once! And I was so into it that I looked for every chance I got to show it to people. That’s priceless.

PS – check out these mini abs coming in! I guess they really are made in the kitchen because I haven’t done a single crunch!? Week 1 as compared to Week 5! The gut is gone! (Hallelujah)

Using the power of my mind to expect success. It’s no secret I have been an avid believer and practitioner of the Law of Attraction for the past 10 years. I have been able to program my mind for success in every area of my life: career, money, relationships – it’s about time I began using it for weight loss and achieving my ideal healthy body. Inside Rebel Body Babes, we talk extensively about becoming energetic matches for our dream bodies. We share affirmations, mantras, and exercises to creative positive pathways in our minds for weight loss. I love nerding out with these girls and watching all of our success unfold together.

Shopping my closet! I had outgrown a lot of my favorite outfits after putting on weight over the past year or so. Getting to shop my closet again and wear my favorite pieces (and discover that they’re actually big on me now!) has been a treat. I love fashion. Having more options and getting to play with my style again has been such a gift.

Sitting down and not readjusting my top 39428042 times. After gaining weight, I started to feel so self-conscious when I’d sit down. Is my shirt tugging at my waist? Are my rolls showing? My tops were tight and I felt so uncomfortable. Eventually, I started wearing really oversized tops to avoid that situation altogether and that made me feel even worse. Who wants to walk around in a tent!? I’m happy to report, I recently noticed myself just sitting down the other day. Just. sitting. down. No pulling, tugging, or shifting my outfit. Freedom! It’s truly those little things that makes a huge impact. Feeling liberated in my own skin. What a feeling.

Also wanted to show you ladies this side by side of just the changes in my face alone. The pic on the left is from March, and the pic on the right is in the same exact seat in the same exact restaurant, after just one week on this plan. I feel like I have lost so much inflammation it’s crazy!

If you’d like to join me on this journey and become a part of Rebel Body Babes, here’s how to do it: You’ve got to be enrolled in the 2B Mindset program I am following. It’s a nutrition program that is literally the easiest thing in the world. You’re not cutting out any food groups. You’re not counting calories, points, macros, or any of that stuff. You’ll see. Here’s the link to sign up for the plan including the magical protein shakes you probably see me drinking constantly on my IG story. I call them the CHANEL of the shake world, not only because they make me feel super high vibe, but because they are made with premium, top-of-the-line ingredients (you know I’m not drinking anything sub par!) You don’t have to drink them, but I find they’re so great to have each morning (sometimes if I crave a warm breakfast, I’ll have my protein shake for lunch. In Rebel Body Babes we share our recipes on how to make them extra decadent). Click here to join the program.

Once you enroll, send a request to the Rebel Body Babes group on Facebook. Please be sure to include your order #, as that is how we identify the women who are doing the plan. You have to be using this nutrition program to be a part of my group. And it will be the best decision you’ve ever made. That I can assure you.

Okay, I’m off to go get this week started! Wishing you ladies tons of love and success as always!

 

 

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Ladies! Can you believe we’re just 4 weeks away from the release of my brand new book, Like She Owns the Place?! I really poured my heart and soul into this book. It is truly unlike anything I have ever written. I realized I was talking so much about chasing your dreams, supporting others, being unapologetic, and stepping into your power, but I hadn’t written a book that really digs in to how to get there. This is it. Consider it your Confidence Bible.

 

Here’s the official description:

From the woman who has built an empire of badass female entrepreneurs comes the long-awaited sequel to Girl Code.

Cara Alwill Leyba’s riveting voice and kinship with her audience drove the self-published success of Girl Code, a book that encouraged women to support each other in the business community. Now her many fans are ready to take the next step: building sustainable confidence from the ground up.

Most women who are insecure look for the equivalent of a sugar rush, such as telling themselves they’re better than other people or changing the way they look. But those tricks won’t protect them from losing confidence in the future. Neither will simply being outspoken and aggressive, if those traits aren’t authentic.

Leyba has three simple but provocative arguments. First, confidence doesn’t come from “winning” — it comes comes from ignoring the success narratives we absorb from magazines and movies. Second, the impressions people make on others depend on their personalities, not their looks–so there’s no reason to use the word “ugly,” ever. Finally, the foundation of confidence comes from “audacious auditing,” Leyba’s term for identifying toxic people and habits and getting rid of them.

Written in her chatty, older-sister voice, and full of revealing stories from every stage of Cara’s life, Like She Owns The Place will help readers rewire their minds to be more confident. Take it from the woman who quit her job at MTV, dyed her hair pink, and made herself a bestselling author — there’s a path becoming stronger and happier.

Like She Owns the Place will be in stores all everywhere on July 10, but you can preorder now, and stay tuned to all things podcast and social media as I share sneak peeks with you now through the big launch!
AND, if you’re in the U.S. and you pre-order (either the hardcover, Kindle version, or audio book), you’ll get this adorable little gift set including custom stickers and quote cards from the book. Check out a few of them below. I mean, could you die!? Click here to submit your pre-order details and grab these goodies.
I usually take the Kamagra soft tabs, as they are not that bitter (the weekenders are of course better, as they taste like milk powder), but the normal ones do not really bother me either. I chew it and then just rinse with a little water.
Click here to claim these goodies! Again, this is open to the U.S. only (that part is beyond my control!) but I can promise you that wherever you are, this book will rock your world. I will be sharing exclusive sneak peeks and more quotes from the book as we get closer to launch, and may even be popping on for a Facebook Live and some very special podcast episodes, so stay tuned!
Thank you ladies for all of your ongoing support. I can’t wait to hear what you think about Like She Owns the Place!
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To listen to this post, please check out episode 99 of my podcast, Style Your Mind here.

I’ve been thinking a lot about success lately, and what upgrading into the next version of myself looks like for me.  A lot has been going on in both my personal and professional life, and I can feel myself growing.  You know when you were younger and you had growing pains? It’s kind of like that, except they’re not pains, they’re almost like these physical sensations that sometimes come in the form of overwhelm and anxiety, and sometimes come in the form of excitement and joy.  Sometimes they come in the form of feeling really stuck, but knowing in your heart that you’re stuck because you’re about to go 110 miles per hour.  It almost feels like the Universe or some force is pulling you back and keeping you in place so that you can prepare for that next level.

As I become more successful, I’ve been thinking a lot about what I do with my time, and who I let in to my world, and who I let have access to me. I saw a quote a couple of days ago that I loved, and I’m paraphrasing this, but it was something along the lines of you know, “This chapter of my life requires me to be a little bit less accessible.  This chapter of my life requires me to be a little bit more private.”

I’ve had this feeling lately of wanting to shut off to the world at certain points in the day, whether it’s at night or in the morning, and really protect my energy.  I give so much of myself and I give so much of my energy, whether it’s through the podcast or through my social media or my Instagram stories or my books or my blog. My job is to give. I’m also a recovering people pleaser, so the way I give is something I need to be really mindful of. I think the definition of people pleasing is not just wanting to see people be happy, because I think most of us do want that, it’s wanting to see people happy at the expense of your own happiness.  It’s giving people things to satisfy them and in turn giving things up in your own life.

It’s scary sometimes to say “no” to people.  It’s scary sometimes to think that we may be letting someone down, but what’s even scarier is thinking about living the rest of your life for someone else.  Think about that – it’s scarier to live the rest of your life making everyone else happy, rather than potentially letting someone down in the moment.  And something that I’ve come to understand when it comes to boundary setting, is that most of the time people do understand.

There have been situations in my own life where I’ve had to let people down and they’ve been extremely not understanding, and sometimes, they haven’t. Sometimes, certain people have actually been really vile and said disgusting things to me, not only letting me know that I’ve disappointed them, but invading my privacy by sending me nasty text messages and harassing me. And that’s just never okay.

So when it comes to privacy and boundaries and creating new standards for your life, you must know that that nobody else’s sense of peace and nobody else’s sense of happiness is more important than your own.  I want share something that I posted recently on Instagram and in The Slay Baby Collective, which is my private Facebook group for my community of readers:

“I have officially become the person who doesn’t always see or respond to all of my social media comments.  I have officially become the person that doesn’t always answer text messages.  I have officially become the person who says no – a lot, who turns her phone off for hours at a  time, who no longer feels guilty for the people I can’t get to, who no longer feels guilty for cancelling on people or events, and I’m not sorry.  I remember years ago, thinking “I will never be that person.”  I judged those who weren’t on top of every single thing in their lives.  I prided myself on being able to be everything to everyone.  All the time.  I was so damn naïve.  Being unavailable does not mean we’re not working hard or not caring for others.  In fact, I think it’s the opposite.  Being unavailable means I’m working on me.  It means I’m nurturing my own mind, body and soul so that I can continue to give, expand and evolve.  We cannot pour from an empty cup – Hell – we cannot even pour from a half-full cup.  I have learned that my cup needs to be overflowing before I can even think about being there for anyone else.  Every new level of success requires we create a new set of boundaries to protect our spirit.  Please listen to that again until it sinks in.  Every new level of success requires we create a new set of boundaries to protect our spirit.  To those who are on the rise and struggling with overwhelm, please know that you cannot and should not do it all.  The amount of women I see, myself included, breaking under this insurmountable stress is alarming.  Take time.  Breathe.  Say no.  Turn the phone off.  Write a new rule book.  Redefine what success looks like for you and make sure your happiness and peace is the first thing on that damn list.”   

When the news broke that Kate Spade had committed suicide, and I’ll be honest, it really hit me – it hit me harder than I would’ve ever imagined it would hit me, and it’s because I understood.  Suicide is a horrific thing – it’s tragic.  I have seen it happen to friends in my own life and I’ve never quite been able to understand it.  In fact, it’s actually always made me quite angry and I was the first person to call it a selfish act. But I felt differently when I heard about Kate’s death. Kate was a woman in business, a very successful woman in business, and she was so well-respected in her industry. She created this incredible brand about celebrating women.  And what I think is so sad and so bittersweet about all of this is that her whole brand was so bubbly and so alive and so full of bliss and joy and it was just so supercharged with happiness. So how could this happen? To think that there was a woman behind that who was in such a dark place that she could take her own life – it took my breath away.

I started a conversation in Slay Baby about mental health and the importance of talking about mental health and being open and honest and being okay with saying “Hey I need help, I’m struggling. I think I need therapist” or “I want to talk to somebody” or “I just need to know that I’m not alone.”  I think sometimes we can look at women on the outside who are ultra successful and beautiful and wealthy and in a position of power, and we can assume that everything is perfect. We can assume that their lives are glossy and beautiful and pretty and Instagrammable and that there are never any problems. But we never take a step back to realize that everyone is fighting a battle that we know nothing about.

I’m sure many people had no idea that Kate was fighting her own demons, and I am sure there are women in your own life right now that you know that are struggling with something.  Maybe it’s anxiety or maybe it’s depression or maybe it’s feeling like they’re not good enough. It’s something to think about. Check in with them, and ask them if they’re okay. Check in with yourself. Are you okay?

I recently returned home from back-to-back events in Miami. The events were incredible, but any time I travel for business, it takes a lot out of me. As much as I love connecting with my readers, I also recognize that I am pouring into people non-stop. And if I don’t immediately take time to pour back into myself, I’m in trouble. As soon as I landed, I hit the ground running again in NYC. Clients, calls, emails – I was overwhelmed to say the least. I felt myself reaching the breaking point. In tears, wondering how I was going to get through the day and get it all done. Desperately praying for a few minutes of solitude so I could catch my breath. And then I heard about Kate Spade. And I finally understood why someone would just want out. No matter how stressful things get, I would never, ever, in a million years, consider taking my own life.  I love my life, I think my life is precious and I feel so fortunate to be in that place.  However I can understand how things can get out of control and how you can suddenly find yourself just buried and just gasping for air and trying to find a way to get through the day.

Someone once told me, “With every level comes a new devil.”  With every rise on the road to success, every time you level up, there are more people who want to bring you down.  There are more challenges, there are more things to do in a day, there are more expectations on you. Its time we start having more compassion for the women around us. Its time we start having more compassion for ourselves.

I used to get really offended if someone didn’t get back to me right away. If someone didn’t text me back, or someone didn’t email me back, I took it personally and felt rejected.  And now that I’m in the position I am in, I realize we can’t be everything to everyone.  Sometimes I can’t answer a text message. Sometimes I can’t go to someone’s event and now I understand it’s okay.

I hope this post helps you think about your own boundaries and who and what you’re allowing into your energetic space.  Please remember that your mental health is your number one priority.  There is nothing in this world, in your career, in a relationship, in a business partnership, that is worth your peace of mind. Sending you all my love, and a reminder that you are never alone. If you need to reach out for help, please do. Please do not hesitate to get what you need. There is always a sunrise after the darkest of nights.

 

 

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You guys! It’s been one almost month since I started my weight loss journey (the last and final one I will ever be on) and I just wanted to give you a quick update. In the past 29 days, I’ve lost 12 pounds. I’ve shed 4 inches off my waist, and 2 inches off my arms. I feel absolutely on fire both physically and mentally. My vibe is off the charts. I finally feel as though I’ve found a true, sustainable way to lose this excess weight in the healthiest and most practical way possible.

If you haven’t read my last post, then please catch up here if you’re interested in learning more about what I’m doing – but most importantly why I’m doing it. I had to get really honest with myself and I got really vulnerable with you guys in that blog. And I’m proud to say I have helped over 100 women take control of their health as well just in the past few weeks. And it’s my mission to continue helping more and more because when I find something that I’m obsessed with that will make people’s lives better, I refuse to shut up about it.

As a part of my morning routine and my new nutrition plan, I have started drinking a protein shake each morning. But if you know me, you know I’m not just drinking any old protein shake. I call this “The CHANEL of the shake world” and there’s good reason. The ingredient list is as high-end as they come, and they make me feel high vibe AF. And naturally, I style mine to perfection. I get so many questions on Instagram about this recipe in particular, so I thought I’d share. Here’s my Pink Bliss Breakfast Experience:

 

1 scoop of vegan vanilla Shakeology

8 oz vanilla almond milk

1 cup of organic frozen dark cherries

1 teaspoon of organic almond extract

1 scoop of Beachbody Focused Energy boost

3 ice cubes

 

Blend together (I use this Ninja blender), serve in a gorgeous wine glass (this holographic one is from CB2), and enjoy while doing something fabulous for yourself like setting your daily intentions or writing your personal power mantra for the day!

I find creating this breakfast experience feels incredibly intentional. It also keeps me full, satisfied, energized, and also helps curb my cravings for all things carby/sweet/wine-filled and more. I seriously do not crave all the salty, sweet, indulgent stuff I used to and I know that this is the reason.

If you are interested in joining me on my journey, please be sure to check out this blog post for all the details on how to follow the same nutrition plan with me and join my exclusive private Rebel Body Babes Facebook group for support from all my other babes doing this with me, and personal coaching from yours truly.

With love and high vibes,

Cara

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